How's your gender doing? If you don't like it, it can be changed
Monday, May 20, 2024
May 19
Four things that are 100% true and you should think about if you haven't already:
- You don't have to be a boy if you don't want to
- You don't have to be a girl if you don't want to
- You can be a boy if you want to
- You can be a girl if you want to
This isn't a joke. This is reality. Have you considered these facts? If not, maybe take a moment to think about it. How's your gender doing? If you don't like it, it can be changed. Hell, even if you do like it, maybe you'd like something else more?
sonic-spirit May 20
This! This is what it's all about! It doesn't have to be deeper than this! You deserve to be happy! If this makes you happy, then guess what? This is you! We don't need to keep endlessly litigating whether we're BLANK enough. It can be simple!
I feel like a lot of the pearl clutching about transition from the cis/het community could be easily dispelled by wider public understanding of what transition is and how it works. If they could get a look "behind the curtain", to come to understand that their ideas of people "Suddenly jumping in" to the gender fuckery pool is blatantly incorrect. (The stuff that's actually in good faith, anyway. Fuck the christan moralizing bullshit. They literally want everyone miserable at all times forever, so that they can continue selling their poison kool-aid as the silver bullet Solution to All Things, for control and power. Also christianity's a death cult trying to bring about the end of the world, and I can show my work, fuckin' fight me.)
Like, first steps we always advise people to take are very easily reversible. Try some new clothes. Maybe play with your hair. Here are some tips to try with makeup for both a more masculine or feminine presentation. The trans boy's first packer--a roll of socks. Here's how to safely bind, and here's stuff that might work in a pinch on a budget.
Play around. Have fun. Open yourself up, and give yourself the freedom to explore.
If you decide to pursue a medical transition, cool. You'll need a GP (general practitioner). Sometimes they can prescribe you HRT, sometimes they can't--either they'll refer you to someone more experienced, or they'll give you the run-around, and you'll want to look for a trans friendly care team. Some of the changes are permanent, many only persist as long as you're on the meds. If you're unsure, or if a fully binary gender presentation doesn't feel right for you, you can ask your doctor to start you on a low dose. We can't pick and choose how our bodies change, it's up to our genetics, but we can ease in to the changes.
There are a variety of surgeries you could choose to pursue, both top and bottom, and new techniques are always developing. Hate your boobs? We gotcha, fam. Want big boobs? No problem. Bottom surgery can be a big recovery commitment, but the satisfaction numbers are even better than knee replacements (by a lot).
We go into this eyes wide open. We can each go as far as we need and no further. Medical transition not for you? No problem! You're still family.
There's no such thing as "trans trenders". It's a bullshit concept made up to make people feel small. And it's okay to be wrong. It's okay to try something, get super excited about it and tell everyone, and then realize there's more, or you things went deeper, or that it just wasn't quite right. Going through that kind of identity exploration and introspection broadens your world. It gives you better insight in this vast, beautiful world of individual experience. It can be mortifying to admit you were wrong. Most of us have had to do it, often several times. I was sure I was a lesbian. Then I was sure I was a gay boy who couldn't do polyamory. Now I'm a gay boy in an amazing polyam relationship with my favorite people, and I'm so lucky.
We need to be free to explore. And it's okay to just want to be happy. It's actually good.
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