"Live Your Truth" But We Want You Alive

May 10, 2023

cherrystrawberrie
It's been so long since i said it but if you live with homophobic/transphobic parents no matter if you're a minor or a young adult don't come out <3

cherrywolowos
I don't care if you guys do it to feel validated by other young gays, your comminity doesn't want you putting themselves in harm's way just to "live their truth" we want you alive

cherrywolowos
"It's 2022 it's not that big deal anymore!!" If your parents are biggots it matters, 2022 is not discriminatory free, if you're able to hide it from them don't think it twice and risk it all because your gay friends told you you weren't really gay if you hadn't come out

jabberwockypie
I'd honestly argue that -- regardless of your age -- if you would be in danger from people you live with or your well--being would be threatened, don't come out to them. (Especially when various older people have had to move back in with parents because of the economy/COVID/etc.)

Homophobic parents paying for college? Hang in there and get your degree. Setting up your awesome new life and living on your own will be a whole lot easier if you can avoid having to deal with student loans.

roach-works
you do not owe anyone a truth they will hurt you for.

dovewithscales
And if you have to lie, then lie. If you're beholden to homophobic people and they suspect you're queer and confront you, it's okay to lie about it to keep yourself safe.

Lie your asses off until you're free. Keep yourself safe, and stay alive. And don't wait to escape until it's perfect. It never will be, and it'll always be hard. But find peace you can rely on to help. You don't have to do this alone.

I know that's hard, and possibly even the scariest part. You've learned not to lean on anyone, because every time you did it fell away. But it's not always like that. You can find people who you can lean on, and get strong enough again to return the favor.

We live in a nightmare world. But we're not alone, and we're stronger together.